Chasten your son while there is hope,
And do not set your heart on his destruction.
Proverbs 19:18 (NKJV)
Discipline is a touchy subject in the world these days. What methods should be used? Is discipline necessary? To spank or not to spank? What is enough and what is too much? Regardless of our views, from the above verse we see that without discipline, we essentially condemn our children to destruction.
The New International Version (NIV) puts it this way: Prov 19:18 –Discipline your children, for in that there is hope; do not be a willing party to their death. This sounds pretty graphic, huh? To me it brings home the seriousness of the situation.
We are not to stand idly by and allow our children, who God has given us, to do and say as they please. Yes, there are times when we are overwhelmed and tired of saying the same thing over and over…and over. We may even feel to give in but we must know that we are doing this for their benefit, even if they do not recognise it as yet. In Praying For Boys, author Brooke McGothlin writes about a time she was before God in prayer for one of her sons. This is what she wrote “I heard Him whispering to my heart, “don’t give up on him. He needs you not to give up.”
We have to fight for our children and not give up when the going gets tough. We need to talk to them, rebuke them, pray for them. They must also understand that actions have consequences and we must follow through.
Hebrews 12: 5-6 states : And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons: ” My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, Nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him; For whom the Lord loves He chastens, And scourges every son He receives.
We see in these verses:
Chastening – the whole training and education of children. It also includes the training and care of the body and instruction which aims at increasing virtue
Rebuke – to reprehend severely, chide, admonish, reprove; to call to account, show one his fault, demand an explanation
Scourge – responsible, loving spanking. Not done in anger.
God shows us love in correcting us and so as we correct, let it be done in love. Let us ask God for wisdom to do this task. He is the ultimate Father and knows best what our children need.
Father, we understand that discipline is part of parenting. Give us the wisdom and patience to help our children. Show us what is the right thing for each situation and remind us that we are to keep them before You in prayer. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
By Marisse Cropper